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Choosing the Block Option

Growing up I did not have social media or a cell phone that allowed anyone to get a hold of me through texts, social media apps or email any time they wanted.  When someone was hurtful to me, I would not feel obligated to hang out with him or her.  It was easy to just move on and not have to worry about what they thought or what they were doing. I remember breaking up with a boyfriend and he made one call to a friend asking her why. That was it and we moved on. There were no social media posts for him to see what I was doing. I did not know what he was up to unless we saw each other in person or a friend mentioned something.

Today cell phones, apps, and social media make it difficult to move on because technology has made it so easy for everyone to know everyone’s business.  In reality, we should have the right to choose who we let into our lives. Social media has turned that upside down. We should not feel a sense of obligation to have people who have hurt us or who make us uncomfortable watching us on social media. Watching those who have hurt us is not helpful either.

Choosing to press the block option on social media seems to be taboo. We are so worried about offending the person who offended and hurt us that we can’t block them.  We allow them to see our lives, to comment on our photos, to text us or message us through apps.

Why is that? It is my right to choose who I let into my life and it is your right too.  I have blocked people who have shown me nothing but hurt. If I wouldn’t want to spend time with them face to face because of how they hurt me, why would I want to give them access to my life on social media?  Why would anyone feel obligated to allow hurtful people to have access to their social media accounts?

Recently I blocked someone who made me very uncomfortable. My right to keep my life out of his sight on social media, far outweighs his belief that he has the right to know anything about me.

I think it is time we start looking at our cell phones, computers, and all forms of social media in the same way we look at our personal space.  We choose how close we let people get to us in regard to our personal space, right?  We are given the right to say no to unwanted hugs. We instinctively step back when our personal space is invaded.  It’s time we apply the same thinking to all forms of technology.  All of us need to understand that we have the right to step back from anyone on social media who makes us feel upset or anxious. It is time we throw out our sense of obligation that we need to be social media friends with them.

You do not have to allow someone who hurt you to watch your Snapchat story. They lost that privilege when they hurt you. Your life on Facebook is none of their business either. It is okay to choose the block option.  You do not owe anyone an explanation, just like you don’t owe anyone a reason why you don’t want them in your personal space.  Ask yourself today and be honest, who makes you anxious or upset when they are near you personally?  If you do not want to be around them, it is a good indication you don’t need them as part of your life through social media. Is there an ex-boyfriend or someone from school who is hurtful to you? If so, do you feel obligated to stay connected with them on Facebook or other forms of social media?  If you feel a sense of obligation that is keeping you from blocking someone, please talk to a parent or an adult you can trust.  Choosing the block option is okay.   As always I would love to hear what you think and feel free to share this.

This was originally written for the Whatever Girls Ministry

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Woman to Woman…Lydia

We are continuing our look at some of the amazing women in the Bible and what we can learn from them. Today I have chosen to take a look at Lydia. Her story can be found in Acts 16:12-15, 40 

Lydia lived in Philippi, a Roman colony in the district of Macedonia and the water in the area was known to make a brilliant purple Copyright: roxiller / 123RF Stock Photodye for cloth. She was a business woman who dealt in the dying of purple cloth which were a very expensive commodity and in my reading about her I learned that she was very well off for single woman.

Besides being a business woman, Lydia also found time to worship God in her Jewish faith. While near the river bank in her daily time of prayer she meets Paul and it is written that as Paul shares about God that her heart is opened.

One of those listening was a woman from the city of Thyatira named Lydia, a dealer in purple cloth. She was a worshiper of God. The Lord opened her heart to respond to Paul’s message. (Acts 16:14)

The scripture goes not to say that she and her household are baptized, and we can also see that she is a woman of hospitality. Paul says this about her and her household: When she and the members of her household were baptized, she invited us to her home. “If you consider me a believer in the Lord,” she said, “come and stay at my house.” And she persuaded us. (Acts 16:15)

In looking at Lydia I see some important lessons

  • Lydia had heart that was open to the Lord and we should also have a heart that is open to hear from Him. I hope that you pray for God to give you a heart the always open to listen him.
  • Lydia is a wonderful example of a woman who understands how to balance her job and her time with God. I think that for many of us, including myself it is easy to allow or time with God to take a back seat when life and its responsibilities get overwhelming. Whether you are career woman or a stay at home mom, make time for God daily.
  • She is also an example of what it means to have the gift of hospitality. She opened her home to Paul more than once and shared what she had. I think that is a gifting the is very important and can easily get looked over in our churches because we focus on the other gifting.  If your gifting is hospitality I hope you use it for the glory of God.

In reading about Lydia something else spoke to my heart and I want to share it with you before I close.

The very water that was so important in the dying of the purple cloth was also the same water that would be used to baptize her. Let me explain…”Purple’s rarity in nature and the expense of creating its dye gave it a great deal of prestige. It was the most expensive dye known to the ancient Israelites in the Bible. It was the color of choice for those of noble or royal birth or those who were high-level officials” -see biblestudy.org

As stated above, Purple is a royal color and the very water that gave the brilliant purple color to the cloth that provided for her financially is the same water that would baptize her as a daughter of the king of kings, Jesus Christ. That water and her faith in who Christ was would allow her to become an heir in Christ and part of the royal priesthood that is talked about in 1 Peter 2:9-10

I hope you are enjoying our look at the women of the bible in the Woman to Woman series. It is my hope that you will be able to apply lessons from the woman in this series to your own life.

Until next time, may you be Simply Blessed.

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Woman to Woman…Mary

Today we are wrapping up our look at the women in Matthew 1, the lineage of Jesus.  Mary is the last woman listed and she has the honor of calling herself the mother of Jesus.

Mary was from the town of Nazareth in the hills of Galilee. She was from a poor but honorable family who were descendants of Israel’s greatest king, David. Mary was trained in the scripture and knew that God had promised to send the Messiah who would rescue her people and be their king. Right after the 400 years of silence, the time between the Old and New Testament when no new Scripture was written, and no prophets had spoken, Mary’s story unfolds.

What is amazing about Mary’s story is that people believed that the king would come from a wealthy and powerful family. Instead God choose a poor girl from a humble family.

Mary is the perfect example of God choosing the most unexpected person to do something for His kingdom.  No one would have ever picked David to slay Goliath but God did.  No one would have ever thought Joshua could bring the walls down by marching around the city of Jericho and blowing a trumpet but God did.

It is so easy to fall into the trap of thinking we are not good enough.  We may think God has better candidates to choose from for the job but God knew exactly what He was doing when He chose David to slay Goliath, and He knew exactly what He was doing when He chose Mary to carry His Son. God knows exactly what He is doing with you too.

Trust God to use you as He sees fit. Mary was the only one in the group that did not have sin that is mentioned.  Unlike Ruth who comes from a line of people whom God had cursed, Mary was a descendant of David. She, however, was not who most people thought God would have chosen.

God picked exactly who was to be a part of the genealogy of His son so that it would show His grace and mercy.  From these five women we can see that no matter how big our sin or whether we don’t see ourselves as worthy, God has made it clear that we can call ourselves heirs of His kingdom.

We need to believe who we are in Christ and understand that there is nothing that we have done that is too big for His forgiveness.

I hope you join me again next week for the Women to Women series.

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Mentoring For All Seasons…By Janet Thompson

Mentoring For All Seasons

I grew up in Southern California where, with few seasonal exceptions, the weather was consistent year round—sunny and beautiful. Sunny and hot with morning fog near the beach in summer. Sunny and warm with occasional Santana winds in the fall. Sunny with a few storms, rain, and overcast days in the winter, when the temperatures might dip into the 60’s. Sunny and colorful in the spring. Those were our seasons.

Then we moved to Idaho where we have four extremely distinct and different seasons, each one lasting about three months, except last winter’s snow went from November until a few snow days in April! The biggest difference I’ve noticed about the four climate “seasons,” is that the year seems to fly by in Idaho!

We’re continually coming out of one season and going into the next completely different season—a great metaphor for our life seasons. Many of you have experienced the blessing of having a mentor in the changing seasons of your life, or long for a mentor to help you through a new life season. That’s when those with experience in a life season can reach out and offer counsel, support, prayer, and God’s wisdom to a woman in a season we’ve experienced. Mentoring is that easy.

When we moved to Idaho from Southern California, we had never lived in the rural mountains year round. We had a lot to learn and there was always someone willing to mentor us; all we had to do was ask and be receptive to what they had learned from living here. Now that we’re a bit “seasoned,” we can help others moving here too.

So that’s my challenge to all of us, let’s look for those women and young girls God puts in our path and share what we’ve learned from our life experiences and how God and His Word helped us and will help them too in whatever life season they’re going through now. And if you’re going through a difficult life season or are new in your faith, ask God to help you find a mentor. Mentoring for All Seasons encourages women to intentionally share their life experiences and God’s faithfulness. I’m not just talking about women; we need to mentor our tweens and teens too!

Mentees come from all walks and seasons of life, ages, and spiritual maturity. Even if a mentor doesn’t share the exact life experience of her mentee, the mentor can provide spiritual guidance, do research, and pray about how to address the specific issues her mentee is encountering. Some mentees might even be seekers or brand new believers who need to know how to live as Christian women today.

In Mentoring for All Seasons, sixty-five women share their mentor or mentee testimonies, along with my own personal experiences, helpful tips, and suggestions will guide women in how to connect and nurture each other through mentoring relationships, as a mentor or a mentee from tweens to twilight years. There are Scriptures for each season to help guide the discussion to God’s Word. Mentors don’t have all the answers, but God does!

I pray for Holy Spirit inspiration for some women to become mentors. I pray for courage for others to take a step of faith and seek out a mentor. I pray for all to enjoy the blessings of trusting God and watching how he honors your obedience to becoming Titus 2:3-5 women.

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Janet Thompson is an international speaker, freelance editor, and award-winning author of nineteen books including her latest, Mentoring for All Seasons: Sharing Life Experiences and God’s Faithfulness, available at all Christian bookstores, online book stores, Amazon, and signed by Janet at her website store, where you can see more of her books.

She is also the founder of Woman to Woman Mentoring and About His Work Ministries. Janet and her husband Dave relocated their empty nest from Orange County, California to the rural mountains of Idaho, where Janet writes and they love watching the deer frolic in their yard.

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A heartfelt thank you to Janet for sharing with us today.  I hope you have a Simply Blessed day.